Should i confront my boyfriend? i think he sent flowers to someone else.?

i went to the flower shop today to order flowers for a friend of mine whose aunt pasted away. well apparently they already had my number and address in the system. it was under my b/f%26#039;s name! i asked the lady how did they get that info, and she said that its in there because he was either a reciever or a sender of flowers from their shop. my b/f and i have been together for 5 years now and we%26#039;ve been living together for 5 years as well. i know he wouldn%26#039;t order flowers, i don%26#039;t even think he knows how! all i know is that i wasn%26#039;t the one to recieve them. i don%26#039;t know if i should confront him, hes just going to deny it and we%26#039;re just going to end up fighting. besides do i really want to know the truth? either way i don%26#039;t think ill have the courage to leave him, i have noone else..he supports me through school..he works and pays all the bills..what do i do!?

Should i confront my boyfriend? i think he sent flowers to someone else.?
relax. maybe he ordered you something for Valentines%26#039; Day. you have to order way in advance for that.
Reply:In five years he has never sent you flowers? Are you sure? And if not, how do you know he didn%26#039;t send some to his mom or sister or a friend in need like you just did? Just based on what you say here, there is no reason to suspect he did anything wrong whatsoever. Now, if you have OTHER reasons to think he might have, then you have every right to confront him on this. Otherwise, mention to him that you just bought flowers for your friend and thought it was weird they had your info and see how he reacts. Unless you have another good reason to be suspicious of your boyfriend, I%26#039;d be willing to bet he either knows nothing about it, or he%26#039;ll kindly remind you that he DID buy you or someone you know flowers and you just forgot.





All that said, you DO want to know the truth. It doesn%26#039;t matter what your situation is, NO ONE should stay with a man who is cheating on them or manipulates them in any way. You DO have the courage to leave if you have to. But you%26#039;d better make sure you have a good reason first!
Reply:5 years huh. did you ask her if she knew the date it was sent? maybe that would help, maybe you forgot some reason he sent them in the last 5 yrs. find out that info first.
Reply:You my friend are paranoid. Didn%26#039;t you just order flowers for a friend? Why couldn%26#039;t his situation be similar. Ordered flowers from everyone at work to go to another employee or boss. MAybe his boss asked him to get flowers for his wife. Maybe he ordered them for his mom. Maybe he ordered them for an ex before you were with him. But it doesn%26#039;t really matter because you sound like you have your mind made up about him so he cheated but your useing him so what%26#039;s the difference!!!!!
Reply:You just said you don%26#039;t think he even knows how to order flowers. What the heck, if he%26#039;s good to you, let it go. Since you don%26#039;t want to know, don%26#039;t ask. It won%26#039;t make a bit of difference on what you do with the relationship anyway.
Reply:If you don%26#039;t plan on leaving, then why mention it? Do you think he%26#039;s going to stop? BTW, if he finds someone and he leaves, then what are you going to do?





Why don%26#039;t you try being really nice to him - no complaining, lots of whatever he likes (physical, emotional), and see if he gets closer or pushes away. That%26#039;s more effective than nagging him.





BTW, that%26#039;s one of the problems of living together without marriage - he can dump you like a stone and you%26#039;re swinging in the wind!
Reply:IF HE%26#039;S GIVEN YOU REASONS IN THE PAST NOT TO TRUST HIM THEN THIS IS A SIGN THAT SHOULD TELL YOU HE MIGHT BE SENDING SOMEONE ELSE FLOWERS. YOU NEED TO KNOW THE TRUTH YOU DESERVE THAT RIGHT, IF HE DENIES IT THEN YOU NEED TO TELL HIM IF HE IS SEEING SOMEONE ELSE TO END IT OR YOU WILL LEAVE HIM, YOU HAVE YOURSELF TO THINK ABOUT SCHOOL IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN A GUY, THATS A LONG TIME TO DATE WITH A GUY BUT IF YOU THINK HE%26#039;S BEING UNFAITHFUL TO YOU YOU NEED TO KNOW. WOULD YOU RATHER NOT KNOW AND WORRY ABOUT IT, THINK ABOUT IT IF HE IS CHEATING ON YOU THEN YOU NEED TO MOVE ON, TO SOMEONE THAT WILL RESPECT YOU AND LOVE YOU, AND HELP SUPPORT YOUR DREAMS. YOU DESERVE SOME ONE BETTER THAN A GUY THAT WILL CHEAT AND LIE TO YOU.
Reply:He probably sent some to his mom on Mother%26#039;s day or something. Don%26#039;t start the %26quot;jealous girlfriend%26quot; thing over something that might be completely wrong. I had a girlfriend that started getting suspicious and controlling for no reason and the relationship went downhill once that started. I just didn%26#039;t want to be someone%26#039;s outlet for their own problems, and I bet he wouldn%26#039;t want that either.
Reply:I think that you should confront him, because not knowing hurts more beleive me i know ive been in the same situationa as you, although it was texts not flowers still simular,


It may be nothing to worry about he may be planning to send you flowers for valentines day.


But if you dont confront him it will onl;y make things worse.


I didnt want to confront my partner either but im glad i did, But before i confronted him bout it the tension in the house and around our relationship was horrible. Get the courage and ask him. Good luck.
Reply:You need to calm down and stop jumping to conclusions. Maybe he had the same thing happen that he wanted to send flowers to his mother or aunt or something. Before you string him up a tree maybe ask for his side of the story.... Geez women are crazy.... A guy doesn%26#039;t even have to do anything wrong and you all are all ready to kill him for it.. Chill out!
Reply:Don%26#039;t jump to conclusions. Within the 5 years you have been together, he could for all you know have been sending flowers to another lady in his his life who is family. His mother%26#039;s birthday, sister%26#039;s birthday, aunt%26#039;s birthday, or maybe if one of them was ill, you never know. If you really think that he%26#039;s been cheating, keep a close eye on him but don%26#039;t confront him unless you%26#039;re sure, you don%26#039;t want to let your relationship with him be over because you can%26#039;t trust each other.


Good Luck


xx
Reply:Ya, dont worry about it. Even if it was for someone else, theres a good chance it wasnt romantic
Reply:If you want to confront him it%26#039;s all up to you. But first, try sending flowers to yourself anonymously and see how he reacts. How do you think he would feel if you received flowers from someone else and not him?
Reply:awww well if u really love someone someday in your life yur going to have to let him go but maybe its a surpirize for valentines day maybe its a trick idk or maybe hes even sending it to one of his family members or u should just casually be talking to him and say like i went to the flower shop today or whatever its called and be like i was trying to send flowers to _________... and they all ready knew my info or whatevr and c what he sais. idk thats what i would do!





hope my answer helps! :D
Reply:Are you sure that he didn%26#039;t order the flowers for you for Valentines Day. Remember it is only a week away. He probably put his order in early. The workers at the shop would help him put his order in. I would not worry about it until after Valentines Day and then you might consider asking him.
Reply:I wouldnt get mad right away. There may be a reason. But yes confront him you have all the right in the world to know.
Reply:Who cares if he supports you, I left my ex with 36 bucks and a pice of crap car. Have some self esteem and grow up.



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